Anorgasmia: When Pleasure is Interrupted
What is Anorgasmia?
Anorgasmia is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the recurrent difficulty or inability to reach orgasm despite adequate sexual stimulation. Although it is more common in women, it can also affect men, and in both cases it can have strong emotional impact, affecting self-esteem, relationship, and quality of life.
Types of Anorgasmia
There are different forms of Anorgasmia:
- Primary: The person has never experienced an orgasm.
- Secondary: Appears after a period in which orgasms were reached normally.
- Situational: Occurs in certain circumstances (for example, with a partner but not during masturbation).
- Generalized: Occurs in any context or type of stimulation.
Possible causes
Anorgasmia can have both physical and psychological causes, and in many cases, it is a combination of 
both:
- Physical factors: Hormonal imbalances, chronic illnesses, the use of certain medications (such as some antidepressants), alcohol or drug use, or gynecological or neurological problems.
- Psychological factors: Anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, traumatic experiences, restrictive sexual education, relationships difficulties, or lack of communication.
How is Anorgasmia treated?
From psychological perspective, we mainly address the emotional and relational causes of this difficulty. Treatment may include:
- Individual psychotherapy: to identify emotional blocks, limiting beliefs, or past experiences that may be influencing the problem.
- Couples therapy: When the dysfunction affects the relationship or when communication and intimacy need improvement.
- Sex education: To better understand one’s body, dismantle myths, and develop a more positive experience of sexuality.
- Mindfulness and relaxation techniques: Useful for reducing anxiety and increasing connection with one’s own body.
Self-knowledge and When to Seek Professional Help
The first step toward a satisfying sex life is self-knowledge. Understanding your body, your emotions, and your needs is essential to enjoying pleasure without pressure or external expectations.
However, self-knowledge is not always enough to resolve certain difficulties. If you have been feeling frustration, insecurity, sadness, or anxiety about your sexual life for some time, it may be time to consider seeking professional help. You should also reach out if:
- You feel the issue is affecting your self-esteem or your relationship.
- You constantly wonder whether what you’re experiencing is “normal”.
- You avoid sex out of fear, discomfort, or shame.
- You experience emotional or physical disconnection during intimacy.
Why is it Important to Ask for Help?
Many people suffer in silence, guilt, or the belief that “it’s normal”. But the truth is that Anorgasmia is treatable, and you don’t have to face it alone. If you identify with this situaTion, speaking with a professional is the first step toward a fuller, healthier sexual life.
Seeking psychological help doesn’t mean there’s “something wrong” with you — it means you are willing to care of yourself and improve your well-being. In therapy, you’ll learn to reconnect with yourself, express your emotions, and build a sexual experience that is freer, healthier, and more pleasurable.
At Psiquefunciona, our psychologist in Marbella offer you a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental space where you can work on your sexual and emotional well-being, accompanied by professionals committed to your health.
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